Hi Amit,
no I think you got me wrong. I want to keep the items if the header gets the delete flag, but I want to remove the item if the item is deleted. in both cases I get the "R". So I need to check if the deletion comes from the delete flag on header level or if it comes from a removed item.
Yea there is no SAP documentation.. but you are right, who needs content if you can have a super toy 
Kind Regards
Oliver